Hi! My name's Joseph.

I'm a husband, a father, a Christian, and an Air Force veteran. I've lived through nineteen years of marriage, thirteen years of active military service, four years in the Special Operations community, and my marriage and family survived. Better yet, they are thriving. 

How it happened is a bit of a story.

I grew up in a Christian family.

I went to Bible College.

I was deeply involved in church ministry.

I was given some incredible opportunities and appeared well-positioned to succeed in life.

There was one problem: 

My marriage and family life was suffering.

And for some reason, the church’s advice wasn’t helping.
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There are few things more depressing than trying as hard as you can at the one thing that's most important to you in life...

...only to see all your efforts keep failing.

I kept seeing verses in Scripture about a husband’s authority, headship, leadership, even rulership… but I was consistently steered away from them.

I kept hearing the same words from church leaders.

"Marriage is a partnership."
"Jesus was a servant-leader."
"Learn mutual submission."
"Be nice. Help her more. Serve her needs."
"Don’t be a tyrant."

So I tried all that. Yet I kept seeing the same problems, and they weren't improving.

My wife was constantly stressed out.
Depressed. Overwhelmed. Cold.
She was always too tired.
Her emotions were chaotic and destructive.
Everything turned into an argument.
Arguments lasted two hours and left us exhausted.
She didn't feel close to me.
She didn't feel safe.
She didn’t trust me.

Something wasn’t working. I began to sense that people were deliberately refusing to shoot straight with me.

So I launched my own personal investigation on what it means to be a man, a husband, and the head of my household. I spent years clearing away the debris of modern assumptions in order to find “the old path where the good way is” (Jeremiah 6:16). I sought out men, pastors, and church communities that were still walking in that way.

It was a long, grueling journey. I was also slogging through depression, discouragement, family loss, and military trauma at the same time. I remember spending many moments on my face before God in tears, crying out "Why is this so hard?"

But I found answers. I grew. What God revealed to me about marriage, leadership, and family life was utterly transforming. It put a fire in my veins and a passion in my heart. To be clear, it was always right there in Scripture. It wasn’t a secret. But I had been trained not to see it. And once I relearned "how to see" and began applying these lessons, the effects were amazing. My wife softened. She became happy and feminine again. Our marriage got better in every area. My daughters, who had quietly suffered from a dozen military relocations, grew secure and joyful again. Our home became a place of peace - in the words of a family member who visited once - "a small kingdom".

I want that for you, too. My life’s mission is to help today’s men...

 - Recover from the damage that secular ideas (even church-sponsored ones) have inflicted on their marriage...

 - Learn strong and godly leadership that affirms and obeys all that Scripture commands...

 - Recognize how God designed male and female, how attraction works, and why good sex is essential to a marriage that reflects Christ and the Church...

 - And become both compassionate and competent rulers over happy, healthy homes.

Ultimately, I had rejected the obvious lie of feminism, but I had unconsciously accepted the androgynous principles beneath it. Undoing the damage it caused took me over a decade. But it doesn't need to take that long for you. Let me fast-track you. Let me show you the old path, where the good way is. It's been hidden for a while, but it's been working this whole time.
Joseph Sade is a personal men's coach and is passionate about helping men turn their families into small kingdoms that glorify God and bless the world. Joseph studied theology at Calvary Chapel Bible College and Liberty University, and served for twelve years in the United States Air Force as an analyst. After being bounced all over the world, he has chosen to settle and put down roots. He enjoys serving at his church, hiking and working out with friends, and an excessive amount of reading history, theology, and classical literature. He lives with his wife and three children in Omaha, Nebraska. 
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